lynnette

My name is Lynnette McFadzen and I live in Portland, Oregon, USA. I am a 57-year-old single woman with three daughters and four grandchildren. I am single and, at the moment, celibate. I am disabled and a widow. I conceived, produce and publish The BiCast (www.bicast.org) directly from my home.

It’s Time to #savethebisexuals

save_the_bisexuals_buttonIn the wake of SCOTUS ruling on same-sex marriage, BiNetUSA has called for greater support for bisexual people. We asked board member and presenter of the  BiCast Lynnette McFazden to give us the info.

Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never harm me. Except they do. This year we have four reported suicides of bisexual or pansexual youth in the US that are directly related to bullying. These are just the ones whose sexual orientation is reported correctly; in the past media has called these kids gay or straight. It is good the media is changing how it deals with bisexuality. But it is terrible we are losing so many.

Bisexual and transgender identified individuals have the highest suicide rates in the LGBT community. 46% for each. Of the four bi and pan youth we have lost this year, half were also transgender.

Alyssa… Continue reading

"Dad, I forgive you": How my father's closet bisexuality affected our family

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“My first experience with my father’s bisexuality was when I discovered his porn in the garage”

My 57 years on this planet are years of dealing with the effects of misogyny. When I came out last year I attributed my internal biphobia to external influences. But something did not resonate there for me. So I finally did what my beautiful and wise mother and my therapists taught me. I unpacked THAT BOX.

Homosexuality was accepted in my family, but bisexuality was never discussed. And knowing my progressive mother I finally questioned why?

Back to the box. I am an expert at compartmentalizing. Have been all my life. My own repeated molestations by a person who married into my family between the ages of 10-12 are a great example. The sexual harassment continued until I got pregnant – as I understand it now, as an attempt not to appeal to him… Continue reading

"But I thought they were gay?": Bi-erasure in celeb culture

purpleclosetRecently an article was shared in a bi Facebook group about celebrities everyone who thought were gay but who were actually bisexual. It was filled with celebrities stating they are attracted to men and women and sleep with both. Statements like “I’m not gay. I’m not straight. But I don’t like labels.” I am paraphrasing a bit but you get the idea. Much discussion about this followed. Several points were brought up about lack of bisexual representation and the right of people to define themselves as they wish.

And then a friend posted this. I did not write it. But I wish I had. We lack #bicelebheroes to connect with. To validate us. To make coming out as bi just as heroic as coming out as gay. There are a handful. Which I admire and am very proud of.  But the following is why being a role model is… Continue reading