LGBTQIA

A Day in the Life of a Bi Asexual

169249078_475b70b357_zTo round of Asexuality Awareness Week, we asked our readers to tell us their stories. Here Julia takes us through how it feels to identify both as asexual and bi.  From getting tired of always being the teacher to so many inappropriate questions, you may find some familiar issues…

“Why is the group called Lesbian and Gay?” I ask, somewhat naively.

“As opposed to what?” answers one of the organisers.

“LGBT…”

“LGBTQ…”

“LGBTQA…”

I’m sitting in an Amsterdam park having a picnic with a group of LGBT people who have met through meetup.com. I’ve been in the country a fraction over 24 hours. I’ve just moved to a new city, and I’m determined to meet new people and not wallow in the self-pity of my country going to pot. Alas, my lack of sleep means I’ve not stopped my mouth running away before my brain… Continue reading

A is for Asexual: Being an Ally to the Asexual Community

imagesAsexuality is a misunderstood and often overlooked group within the LGBTQIA+. Over the years they’ve had to fight, often alone, for recognition within both the LGBT community and within scientific circles. For a large portion of the twentieth century, what we now understand to be just another orientation was seen as a disorder or hormonal imbalance. After overcoming the scientific misunderstandings, asexual activists dedicated attention to overcoming misunderstandings within the LGBT community.

A quick tag search on Tumblr and a few hours spent reading the pages of discourse will show that despite the best efforts of asexuals, the LGBT has been somewhat unwelcoming. This is something I tried to tackle in my article for The Matador Network, A Bisexual Call to Arms in Support of Asexuals, where I discuss the importance of bisexuals supporting asexuals, since our two communities truly do share things in common.

Simply reading an article… Continue reading

Ofcom Rules on Biggins Big Brother Bigotry

christopher bigotOfcom has today ruled that the biphobic comments made by Christopher Biggins and broadcast on Channel Five’s Big Brother did not breach the regulators rules.

The incident, which saw Biggins booted off the show in August of this year, was investigated after Ofcom received 44 complaints.

Stalwart Pantomime Dame Biggins had said,  “The worst type though is, I’m afraid to say, the bisexuals… what it is is people not wanting to admit they are gay.”

Ofcom said: “We investigated whether a discussion between Christopher Biggins and Renee Graziano about the sexual orientation of bisexual people was offensive.

“We accepted that these remarks made in Celebrity Big Brother were capable of causing offence, but they were likely to be within the audience’s expectations of this programme.”

 

 

Seven Myths About Asexuality, Debunked

2000px-asexual_flag-svgAsexuality – not experiencing sexual attraction – is one of the least widely understood sexual identities, and myths abound. In honour of Asexual Awareness Week, we’ve rounded up eight of the most common misunderstandings, ripe for debunking.

MYTH: Asexuality is just a made up new sexuality.

FACT: Leaving aside that all sexual identity labels are ‘made up’ at some point, the word ‘asexual’ has been used in its current sense since the 1890s. That’s exactly the same length of time as ‘homosexual’ has been around.

MYTH: Asexuality is just a fancy way of saying abstinent or celibate.

FACT: Abstinence is a behaviour. It is the choice not to engage in sexual activity. People who have chosen abstinence or celibacy still experience sexual attraction. By comparison, asexuality is defined by a lack of sexual attraction and is not a choice.

 

MYTH: Asexual people never have sex.

FACT:… Continue reading

They don’t call them BI-ographies for nothing: Six bisexual memoirs and autobiographies to read on the beach this Summer

readingBrush up on your bisexual history, find out more about a bi icon or just glory in the sensation of a life far more interesting than your own. From the outrageously trashy to the impressively high-brow, we’ve got you covered.

1. Alan Cumming – Not My Father’s Son: A Family Memoir (Canongate)

acSample quote: “It’s hard to explain how much that feeling of the bottom potentially falling out at any moment takes its toll. It makes you anxious, of course, and constant anxiety is impossible for the body to handle. So you develop a coping mechanism, and for us that meant shutting down. Everything we liked or wanted or felt joy in had to be hidden or suppressed. I’m sad to say that this method works. If you don’t give as much credence or value to whatever it is that you love, it hurts less when it is… Continue reading

Crowdfunding for New Book About Bisexuality in Britain Launches

Friday night saw the launch at Soho’s Poetry Cafe of the crowdfunding campaign to finance Purple Prose, a new book about bisexuality in the UK. Purple Prose is due to be published in summer 2016 by Thorntree Press.

 

With contributions from some of the UK’s leading bi activists and writers on sexuality (including contributions from Biscuit’s editorial team), Purple Prose promises to be an informative and interesting snapshot of the community as well as a guide for bisexual people and their friends.

One of the contributors told Biscuit, “The book has pretty much already been written. It covers everything from coming out and finding the community, to how bisexual people experience their gender, how our labels might change and being bi at work. And that’s just the tip of the iceberg.

“The last book by British bi activists, Bisexual Lives, was published way back in 1988, and… Continue reading

It’s Time to #savethebisexuals

save_the_bisexuals_buttonIn the wake of SCOTUS ruling on same-sex marriage, BiNetUSA has called for greater support for bisexual people. We asked board member and presenter of the  BiCast Lynnette McFazden to give us the info.

Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never harm me. Except they do. This year we have four reported suicides of bisexual or pansexual youth in the US that are directly related to bullying. These are just the ones whose sexual orientation is reported correctly; in the past media has called these kids gay or straight. It is good the media is changing how it deals with bisexuality. But it is terrible we are losing so many.

Bisexual and transgender identified individuals have the highest suicide rates in the LGBT community. 46% for each. Of the four bi and pan youth we have lost this year, half were also transgender.

Alyssa… Continue reading