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“Body Positivity or Heteronormative Trash?” Biscuit Reviews Dating Show “Naked Attraction”

NINTCHDBPICT000259628882“Lets watch the naked dating show!” I’m two glasses of wine in by now so I’m sure I’ve misheard, but no. There is a television show of the classic one person picking a date from a room full of candidates format, only no one’s wearing any clothes while they do it. Its called Naked Attraction and my two glasses of wine think watching it is a great idea, if only because we’re not entirely sure this thing is real.

The show is real and the intro is so frighteningly cisheteronormative, with its cheerful announcement about finding out “what men and women really want”, that I start to feel like an anthropologist observing an alien culture. My friend promises that they have a bisexual candidate later on, but as the write up talks about her wanting to find out if she’s more attracted to men or women I remain dubious. However,… Continue reading

“Fancy a 3sum?”: Online Dating As A Bi Woman…

woman-731894_1920Looking for love and/or lust on the internet is hard enough, without having to contend with people’s ignorance about your sexuality. However, on the plus-side, it can be a great way to find like-minded people who genuinely accept you being bi…

The fact that I’m in search of a mono relationship is spelled out in nursery level English on all my dating profiles. Yet I’ve probably had at least 10 direct requests for threesomes just this month. I even had to block a man who took the time to send nine messages, each more fire and brimstone-filled than the last, explaining how my orgiastic lifestyle would land me in Hell.

It hasn’t all been doom and gloom, though. Having the chance to gauge whether or not a date will deal with the “b-bomb” OK is out of the way at the beginning, so by the time you’re at the meeting… Continue reading