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Coming Out Sucked: How Biphobia Ruined My Coming Out

Screen-Shot-2015-07-07-at-4.10.48-PMComing out in the new millennium is nothing like it was for our predecessors, or we’re told. For them coming out was fearful and even dangerous. For us it should be a joyous occasion. Unfortunately, that’s not always the case. Biphobia, both external and internal, can make coming out just as hard as it ever was. Here, Alex takes us through her journey.

Coming out sucked.

I remember looking out over the black water as I stood in my favourite thinking place – a now eerily empty and quiet park on my way home in Berlin – and saying those three magical words for the first time: I am bisexual.

The thing is, they didn’t feel magical at all. I spat them out like bile rising in my throat. They never soared, they fell right back down on me, paralysing me with fear and dread. Those three words were… Continue reading

“If You Wanted Support, You Sent Off For Leaflets” – Finding a Bi Community Before the Internet

associationsWe at Biscuit are constantly surprised how many people simply don’t know that a vibrant and active bisexual community exists in the UK. In the digital age it’s much easier than ever before to connect with people just like you, but what did people do before Google? We asked Marcus Morgan of the Bisexual Index to tell us how he found a community he could call home.

The story of how I came to find the UK bisexual community is one I tell often – if you’ve heard it before I apologise – but it’s a useful example of the subtle, or perhaps not so subtle, biphobia we encounter. Of the way we are delegitimised with the kindest intentions.

I was 21 years old. I worked in a high street insurance brokers on the outskirts of London. I had keys to lock up the shop so I waited… Continue reading

Five Ways You Can Look After Bi Mental Health

mental-health-2019924_960_720Bisexual Mental Health Month (BMHM) may feel long over, but that doesn’t mean you need to wait another year to discuss the sweeping mental health issues facing the bi+ community, or to feel guilt-free about focusing on your own mental health troubles. Here are a few things bi+ people and our allies can do to help safeguard the mental health of the bi+ community.

BMHM is an American campaign that runs throughout March to raise awareness of the mental health issues facing the bisexual community. Due to its online presence, it’s beginning to become internationally observed. But mental health doesn’t isn’t just an issue once a year. Here’s how you can look after yours, and others, all year round.

Find bi+ friendly support

Unfortunately, many bisexual people have difficulty getting support for their mental health issues, despite having some of the worse mental health stats in the LGBT+ community.… Continue reading

The Biscuit Guide to Coming Out as Bisexual

 

doorIn honour of National Coming Out Day tomorrow, Biscuit presents our guide to coming out as bi.
Coming out, as many bisexuals will tell you, isn’t a one off event. Once you’ve done it once, you’ll find yourself doing it all the time; to potential partners and new friends, to healthcare providers and public services. Because the gender of our partner or date doesn’t announce our sexuality, we find ourselves coming out more often than most. We never entirely get over the fear of coming out to someone new, but there’s no denying it gets easier.

Coming out for the first time, though, can be daunting. When you feel like you’ve been carrying an exhausting secret, the thought that you might be soon letting it go can be overwhelming, and not all of those thoughts are positive. Anxieties about how your life might change, or how your revelation might be received… Continue reading

Minor Royal Comes Out

hist-b-2Lord Ivar Mountbatten, great-great-great grandson of Queen Victoria and cousin to the current Queen has come out as bisexual.

In an exclusive interview with the Mail on Sunday, Lord Ivar Mountbatten (53) has said that he is bisexual. Acknowledging that he had struggled with his sexuality, Mountbatten revealed that his ex-wife Penny, with whom he has three children, had known of his sexuality when they married in 1994, and had been supportive of his decision to come out.

“Everyone in our family knows and could not be more supportive, ” he said.

Despite Mountbatten using the word ‘bisexual’ to describe himself, the rabble-rousing tabloid chose to repeatedly label him as gay in both headline and article. Pink News, the Independent, and the majority of the British and American press has chosen to follow suit.

You Didn't Hear it from Us 20/06/15

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You Didn't Hear it From Us 30/05/15

Northland_High_School_valedictorian_joins_Navy_130501-N-XB536-034Here’s a round-up of some of the news, blogs posts and comment we missed this week.

 

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No Drama: Coming out as bi* shouldn't need special treatment

father_and_daughter_by_panda_cupcake-d32nfv3When queer parents have queer children, coming out shouldn’t be a big deal. Amy L ask why Yahoo Parenting think bisexuality deserves special treatment…

 

Let me tell you the story of how I came out to my mum. Everyone sitting comfortably?…

In my late teens I came to the conclusion that I was bi. In a moment of celebration, and in true teenage style, I customised a t-shirt to show it. On the front I wrote ‘I like girls…’, on the back ‘and boys and chocolate spread. Yum’. On a shopping trip with my sister, this t-shirt received some attention from a couple of young shop assistants who gleefully asked if I was bi (note: no biphobia or bierasure. It can happen). My sister was a little embarrassed by this and when I got home I told my Mum all about it, coming out sideways, via anecdote, rather than… Continue reading

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