bisexuality

Emmerdale Demonstrates How to Get Bisexuality Right

emmerdale00031Last week rural soap Emmerdale broke an unwritten rule of primetime storytelling: you don’t say bisexual. Robron fan Charlie tells us what else they’re getting right.

Finding an on-screen bisexual is about ten times harder than finding one in real life. This is because films and TV shows seem to have an obsession with alternating a character’s sexuality depending on who they are with at that current moment – especially in soap operas. ITV soap Emmerdale, has been no stranger to this trend. 

Ali, who was on the show last year with her partner Ruby, was the butt of many lesbian jokes as she left her husband to be with her new girlfriend, yet it was never explored whether she was bisexual or gay. Earlier this year, a plotline involving Lawrence’s old lover returning did nothing but create confusion regarding his sexuality, since he had been in… Continue reading

ONS Report Shows 45% Increase In Bi Identities

The Office of National Statistics has released data that shows a 45% increase in young people identifying as bisexual in three years.

The Office of National Statistics has updated the Sexual Identity Statistical Bulletin with data collected from the Annual Population Survey of 2015.

It reports that 1.7% of adults in the UK identified themselves as lesbian, gay or bisexual, comprising 1.1% who identified themselves as gay or lesbian and 0.6% who identified themselves as bisexual. A further 0.4% of the population identified themselves as “Other”. Significantly, 4.1% replied with ‘do not know’ or refused their answer.

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The number of people openly identifying as bisexual rose from 230,000 in 2012 to 334,000 in 2015, a 45% increase.

The results echo those of last years’ YouGov survey which found that half of young people (and almost a quarter of the total population)… Continue reading

Dear Joanna: “Am I bisexual… or not?”

118HDear Joanna,

I’m so confused and don’t know what to do! I don’t know if I am bisexual or not. I have been through the experimental time as a teenager and seen girls and had an attraction to them but I don’t know how I can find out if I really am without meeting someone and trying it out which is obviously not the way to go about it because someone who is a fully established bisexual would be hurt if I was to use them as an experiment. I have watched lesbian porn as I heard many straight people also do. I just don’t know what to do and I’m scared of telling anyone because I haven’t yet seen what it’s like to date a girl. Please help!

 

This is something many people go through in their life, so don’t worry, you’re not alone in your confusion!
It’s… Continue reading

Minor Royal Comes Out

hist-b-2Lord Ivar Mountbatten, great-great-great grandson of Queen Victoria and cousin to the current Queen has come out as bisexual.

In an exclusive interview with the Mail on Sunday, Lord Ivar Mountbatten (53) has said that he is bisexual. Acknowledging that he had struggled with his sexuality, Mountbatten revealed that his ex-wife Penny, with whom he has three children, had known of his sexuality when they married in 1994, and had been supportive of his decision to come out.

“Everyone in our family knows and could not be more supportive, ” he said.

Despite Mountbatten using the word ‘bisexual’ to describe himself, the rabble-rousing tabloid chose to repeatedly label him as gay in both headline and article. Pink News, the Independent, and the majority of the British and American press has chosen to follow suit.

The best of the #biactivistsaresickofhearing hashtag

You’ve got to love twitter. We use it for networking, maintaining friendships, sharing news and jokes and judging other people’s grammar.  And, of course, we use it for blowing off steam, like today, when a cotterie of frazzled bi activists decided to tweet the most ridiculous, illogical and, unfortunately, ubiquitous things they hear every day.

We kicked off with a few of our own experiences…

… and boy did we hit a nerve. Here are 15 of the best responses.

1. The one where non-binary bi people are completely erased

 

Being Bi – Borderline Personality Disorder

118HUsually when we talk about sexual behaviour as a symptom, it’s metaphorical, but when you’re bi and living with Borderline Personality Disorder your sexuality really is seen as a symptom, representing emotional and social instability, promiscuity and volatility.  Friend of Biscuit Cat shares her experience navigating the way.

“I’m bisexual and I have a diagnosis of Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), a serious mental illness marked by unstable moods, behaviour, and relationships that has been in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual for Mental Disorders since 1980.

Mental health issues are prevalent in the bi community, with a higher than average number of bisexuals having suffered from mental health problems at some point when compared to the general population. Bisexual women in particular are more likely to suffer (in a Biscuit poll earlier this year only 12% of respondents said they had never suffered from… Continue reading

Eight Myths About Pansexuality, Debunked

downloadIt’s hard to deny that ignorances and misunderstandings about pansexuals exist, and the bisexual community is not immune – despite facing plenty of myths of our own.  Myths around bisexuality and pansexuality overlap, but pansexuality also attracts some unique prejudices. It’s time to put them all to bed, starting with eight of the most common panphobic myths.

MYTH: Pansexual is a new term

FACT: We’ve been seeing the word pansexual since at least 1924. It’s shifted in meaning since it was coined, of course, just like the words ‘bisexual’, ‘homosexual’ and even ‘furniture’, ‘girl’ and ‘manufacture’. That’s just how language works.

It was first used by contemporary critics of Freud such as Otto Rank and Wilhelm Reich in derision, as an ironic validation of Freud’s suggestion that “that the sex instinct plays the primary part in all human activity”; or that our libidos either directly or indirectly, drive… Continue reading

Four Last Minute Bi+ Crafts for Everyone You Forgot to Buy a Gift For

‘Tis the season for rampant consumerism. ‘Tis ALSO the season for probably forgetting to buy a gift for someone important. Don’t worry, Biscuit’s got your back, with a range of DIY gifts that will make you look like you’ve actually got your sh*t together. You can thank us later.

A box of cupcakes

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Whip up a batch of your favourite cup cakes,  top with icing that shows off your bi pride, and no one will know you only remembered that you needed a gift for your local bi group leader when you woke up in a cold sweat at 4am. Unless they read Biscuit. Um.

A pair of  snazzy handwarmers

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Ok, you’ll need to be able to knit or crotchet like the wind, but who doesn’t want extremely cosy wrists and freezing fingers? Find a free pattern on Ravely.

A unicorn horn

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With equal… Continue reading

“Fancy a 3sum?”: Online Dating As A Bi Woman…

woman-731894_1920Looking for love and/or lust on the internet is hard enough, without having to contend with people’s ignorance about your sexuality. However, on the plus-side, it can be a great way to find like-minded people who genuinely accept you being bi…

The fact that I’m in search of a mono relationship is spelled out in nursery level English on all my dating profiles. Yet I’ve probably had at least 10 direct requests for threesomes just this month. I even had to block a man who took the time to send nine messages, each more fire and brimstone-filled than the last, explaining how my orgiastic lifestyle would land me in Hell.

It hasn’t all been doom and gloom, though. Having the chance to gauge whether or not a date will deal with the “b-bomb” OK is out of the way at the beginning, so by the time you’re at the meeting… Continue reading

Out Of Mind: Let’s Talk About Bi Women And Mental Health…

worried-girl-413690_1920Another day, another grim story about budget cuts. In the last four years, benefit sanctions against people with mental illnesses have increased six hundred times. Nearly 20,000 people have had their disability benefits stopped, sometimes for weeks at a time, in an attempt to force compliance with schemes such as Welfare to Work which tries to help people back into employment. But as the charity Mind has pointed out, forcing people into financial difficulties is not exactly conducive to good mental health.

This counter-intuitive approach to recovery and work is hardly an anomaly. Mental health services in the UK are in crisis. Budgets are plummeting, and care professionals are increasingly depending upon unproven services to make severe cuts. Short term financial problems are compounding a longer standing issue – the fact that mental health has so often been the poor relative of physical health when it comes to treatment… Continue reading