biphobia

“I feel tolerated, but very rarely more than that” – Being Bi on the Scene

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Bisexual people were very nearly edged out of the Pride parade all together; a Guardian columnist (who can tell Divine Gender Identity without asking, even in dimly-lit London clubs) told a group of self-identified bisexual and queer people to stop dancing and kissing so aggressively in a gay space, before writing about it in the national media. 

Exclusion is an experience that is ubiquitous among the bisexual community. As well as the obvious exclusion same-gender attracted people face from heterosexual society, bisexuals often can’t find refuge within LGBTQ created partly by and for them.

Although this phenomena is widely written about in the bisexual community, as is the imbalance of the effects being excluded from society has over being excluded from the feeble resources allotted to the LGBTQ community, it’s important that when these kind of incidents happen we take the time reflect on the prejudices we still… Continue reading

Dear Straight Couples

2285660013_f9667ee1cb_zDear couples of OKCupid, Plenty of Fish, and Tinder

I am not your unicorn. I’m not interested in threesomes. I don’t want to share my body with people I neither know, nor trust. I’m not going to show up at your apartment with lingerie beneath my trenchcoat and play out your girl/girl/boy fantasy. That’s not to say I don’t enjoy group sex, I just don’t enjoy you, or your approach to it.

I understand that as an unpartnered polyamorous bisexual, I’m expected to be available for casual group sex any time, any place, with as little as an hour’s notice. And to that, I say, “Fuck you, pay me.” I am completely uninterested in casual sex with strangers, and since my profile is quite clear about that, it baffles me that you’d persist in asking.

Why do so many of you insist on rudely propositioning single women online for threesomes?… Continue reading

WATCH: Evan Rachel Wood Talks About Bisexual Visibility at HRC Gala

evan_rachel_wood_5Evan Rachel Wood delivered a powerful speech at a Human Rights Campaign Gala event in North Carolina on Saturday, where she was presented with a Visibility Award for her unwavering frankness when it comes to her sexuality.

In the heartrending speech, Wood spoke of feeling isolated and even suicidal when faced with homophobia and biphobia. She also spoke of the power of visibility in a biphobic world.

“Growing up”, she says, “I thought I was like every other girl who had a slight obsession with Jessica Rabbit, KD Laing and Melissa Etheridge … I didn’t realise there was anything different about me”.

“I had no way to put what I felt into words”. “Then one day I heard an actress say the word bisexual”.

Going on to address the health outcomes, intimate partner violence and sexual assault statistics of bisexual people, Wood implored her audience to choose… Continue reading

Giving Up Men is a Slippery Slope

Know-if-You-Are-Heterosexual-Step-10The bi-osphere (geddit!) has reacted angrily to the suggestion from one of our own that we ought to ‘give up men’. Arguments have been made on the basis of gender diversity, self-actualisation and repression.

Our Ed Libby thinks they’re missing one vital point.

Since the Gay Liberation movement first found its feet way back in the 1970s it has been asking bi women to call themselves lesbian, seek only relationships with women, and generally refuse to acknowledge their attraction to anyone else. It was, we were told, not fair to muddy the waters with multi-gender attraction. Better to stick to one and make things easy. It was an act of solidarity, they said. Attraction to one gender is just easier for people to understand. After all, weren’t we all working towards the same goal?

Similarly within the feminist movement, both bi- and heterosexuality were, in some quarters, roundly… Continue reading

Give Up Men? But Why?


images (1)When Huffington Post published a blog by Kylie Barton entitled “Calling Bisexual Women: Give Up Men!”, bisexual twitter exploded. Tweet after tweet came in, calling out the blog’s author for internalised biophobia, hierarchical thinking, and logical fallacy after logical fallacy. In a community where gay men and women frequently posit that their relationships outrank ours on the scale of queer, here was a bi woman doing it too. 

Buckle in, because it’s going to get bumpy.

This entire response can be summed up in one word: No. However, that wouldn’t make a very good article, so I shall continue.
I won’t stop dating men, just as I won’t stop dating women, and I won’t stop dating nonbinary people. I won’t have anyone else policing my romantic or sexual life, regardless of their sexuality. I don’t fuck with biphobic respectability politics from within our outside of the LGBT+ community,… Continue reading

Boy George Mocks Bisexuals

Boy George took to twitter today to mock bisexuality while also implying that George Michael’s recent death was a suicide.

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The tweet appears to suggest that people claiming a bisexual identity are lying.

In a grimly ironic twist,  George Michael, who had enjoyed sexual encounters with both men and women, made the decision not to label himself as bisexual because of biphobic remarks from his friends.
The former Culture Club frontman responded to disappointed fans on twitter by telling them their concerns are ‘steaming white rice’ and that they are ‘a bit dim’.

 

Only a few hours before his offensive outburst, the DJ and former pop star had tweeted that 2016 had taught him to ‘hold his tongue’.ss2017

Really?

Emmerdale Demonstrates How to Get Bisexuality Right

emmerdale00031Last week rural soap Emmerdale broke an unwritten rule of primetime storytelling: you don’t say bisexual. Robron fan Charlie tells us what else they’re getting right.

Finding an on-screen bisexual is about ten times harder than finding one in real life. This is because films and TV shows seem to have an obsession with alternating a character’s sexuality depending on who they are with at that current moment – especially in soap operas. ITV soap Emmerdale, has been no stranger to this trend. 

Ali, who was on the show last year with her partner Ruby, was the butt of many lesbian jokes as she left her husband to be with her new girlfriend, yet it was never explored whether she was bisexual or gay. Earlier this year, a plotline involving Lawrence’s old lover returning did nothing but create confusion regarding his sexuality, since he had been in… Continue reading

Ofcom Rules on Biggins Big Brother Bigotry

christopher bigotOfcom has today ruled that the biphobic comments made by Christopher Biggins and broadcast on Channel Five’s Big Brother did not breach the regulators rules.

The incident, which saw Biggins booted off the show in August of this year, was investigated after Ofcom received 44 complaints.

Stalwart Pantomime Dame Biggins had said,  “The worst type though is, I’m afraid to say, the bisexuals… what it is is people not wanting to admit they are gay.”

Ofcom said: “We investigated whether a discussion between Christopher Biggins and Renee Graziano about the sexual orientation of bisexual people was offensive.

“We accepted that these remarks made in Celebrity Big Brother were capable of causing offence, but they were likely to be within the audience’s expectations of this programme.”

 

 

Cultural Erasure: Where’s the B on Our TVs?

willowozA version of this post first appeared on Abigail’s blog, Experience Is To Be Believed.

About two years ago, I partook of some Netflix binges – re-watching all of Buffy the Vampire Slayer and powering through the whole ofThe L Word were just too irresistible. Although I can’t deny I hugely enjoyed both of these binges, there was something I just couldn’t get past – the way bisexuality was treated in both.

Since then, I’ve kept them in my mind, and to be honest, I’ve yet to encounter any programmes made more recently which give bisexuality positive treatment, so let’s step back in time.

The year is 1997, and Buffy the Vampire Slayer has hit our screens. (I was only 6, so of course I wasn’t watching it then. But for reasons which will become clear, I feel hugely influenced by this programme, so indulge me.) We… Continue reading

Ofcom to Investigate Christopher Biggins Biphobic Big Brother Comments

christopher bigotAfter receiving 20 complaints, the television watchdog Ofcom has opened an investigation into the anti-bisexual comments made by pantomime actor Christopher Biggins this summer.

The complaints are believed to have been made under Section Three of the Broadcasting Code(.pdf) which states that, “Material which contains abusive or derogatory treatment of individuals, groups, religions or communities, must not be included in television and radio services except where it is justified by the context”.

“We’re investigating whether a contestant’s comments about bisexual people were offensive and breached generally accepted standards,” a spokesperson said. The initial investigation is expected to be completed within 15 days.

Should the complaints be upheld, Channel Five are unlikely to face any sanctions.