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A is for Asexual: Being an Ally to the Asexual Community

imagesAsexuality is a misunderstood and often overlooked group within the LGBTQIA+. Over the years they’ve had to fight, often alone, for recognition within both the LGBT community and within scientific circles. For a large portion of the twentieth century, what we now understand to be just another orientation was seen as a disorder or hormonal imbalance. After overcoming the scientific misunderstandings, asexual activists dedicated attention to overcoming misunderstandings within the LGBT community.

A quick tag search on Tumblr and a few hours spent reading the pages of discourse will show that despite the best efforts of asexuals, the LGBT has been somewhat unwelcoming. This is something I tried to tackle in my article for The Matador Network, A Bisexual Call to Arms in Support of Asexuals, where I discuss the importance of bisexuals supporting asexuals, since our two communities truly do share things in common.

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10 of the Best Bisexual Pins on Etsy

Enhance your jacket or backpack with an identity affirming pin or two, from the treasure trove of Etsy.

1. Go Simple

With a classic button from CatStasher

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2. Show your romantic side

With this enamel love heart from Compoco Pop

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3. Keep it classy

With a monochrome statement from wordforwordfactory

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4. Embrace your various identies…

With a bundle from CwtchPride

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5. … or share with your friends

With Bimblesnoot’s cute selection

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6. Put the Bee back in LGBT

With an apiculturists delight from theartfulscientist

il_570xN.972834684_4acd7. Get pixelated

With some throwback crafting from BowsbyRia

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8. Submit to the inevitable cash-in

With a bisexual Poké Ball by EllenKayDesign

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9. Subtly combat erasure

With a declaration from astropuke

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1o. Re-live your emo phase

With a vespertilionine pun from shopfives

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Past the look: What is demisexuality?

love-560783_1280One thing that has bothered me for a while when it comes to LGBT+ spaces is that they are primarily focused on bars and clubs: spaces revolving around alcohol and casual sex. For me, as someone who doesn’t drink, they are only places I would go if I was with a larger group of queer friends. Outside of that however, it is rare that I come across somewhere that is both queer and casual that I would like to spend my weekends.

I have recently been doing some research on the asexual (ace) and aromantic (aro) communities that are included within the LGBT+ umbrella but are very often ignored. One main difficulty the ace community faces is people rebranding the “A” in LGBTQIA as being for allies and not asexuals. This erases them even further as they are replaced by non-queer representation, which is exactly, not, the point.

The problem with LGBT+ spaces being hypersexualised means that queer ace people could feel uncomfortable or unwelcome in queer spaces due to the heavy focus on indulging in casual sexual behaviour, which is totally fine and awesome if you are into that sort of thing, but if you aren’t it leaves you in the cold as to where to find queer spaces and likeminded queer individuals. This oversexualisation of queerness and queer spaces also means that asexuals get forgotten and are sometimes not seen as being “queer enough” to be part of the community. Which is something that to bisexuals sounds strangely familiar…
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