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Another EXCLUSIVE extract from British Bi Guide Purple Prose

purpleBiscuit has been given a sneak preview of Purple Prose, a guide to the bisexual community from indie publisher Thorntree Press now crowdfunding over at Indigogo. The book is billed as “a guide to the bi community in the UK, and an exploration of the issues facing bisexuals everywhere”.

In the second exclusive extract Biscuit editor Libby gives us a brief overview of the role of allies in the bi community:

Not every person you find in bisexual spaces, either in real life or online, falls under the bisexual umbrella. Monosexual-identified people people who are invited into our spaces and communities might be our friends, partners or members of our families, or someone with a professional interest in bisexuality, like a health worker or researcher. They might even be someone who is just curious to learn more. People with a supportive interest in bisexuality are usually called allies.… Continue reading

New York Pride: A View From The Parade from a Christian Bisexual

P1100448The Rev. Francesca Bongiorno Fortunato gives us the a personal account of the Bi Contingent at NYC Pride 2015.

We had 125 people marching with the Bi Contingent this year – our largest Bi presence ever at NYC Pride March. There were about half a dozen extra-large Bi Pride flags as well as a couple of Trans Pride flags. Marchers with our group included elder statesmen and women of the American Bisexual Pride movement (notably Larry Nelson, long-time Partner of the late “Mother of Pride,” Brenda Howard) as well as newly-out Bi folk and first time marchers. We even had a Bi mother and daughter marching together and (on the truly young end of the age spectrum) one approximately year-old baby! (I can’t say whether the baby was Bi, but his moms were, and one of them handed him to me so she could free her hands for a… Continue reading

"The impossibility of okay": When "allies" let us down

person-598312_1280As you pass me in the hallway you ask, “Are you okay?” I cannot give you the answer you want to hear. I know you hope I’m okay with you. You wish that I would accept your sad decision and embrace you. I simply can’t. Your poor decision makes this impossible. You claim to support the LGBT community, but deep down, we make you squirm. While you said one thing, you did another. You chose to acquiesce to the status quo because it was safe for you.

You claim we need to compromise. Why can’t you see that I’m not able to support your position of “compromise?” It isn’t compromise when one side is completely shut out of the conversation. How can I support this position? I am bisexual, not merely someone who joined a cause. You can walk away, as you did when it mattered most. You can go home from discussions, meetings, luncheons, marches, rallies, fundraisers. You go home and pat yourself on the back for a job well done, letting it slip from your mind, as just another one of many causes you choose to support.

You may be able to settle for less than full equality, but because I am bisexual, this isn’t an option. It is a core part of who I am. When I’m at home, I am bisexual. When I go to work, I am bisexual. When I take my kids to school, I am bisexual. When I make love to my husband, yes, even then, I am bisexual. I am bisexual when I eat, sleep, bathe, and breathe. I am always bisexual. I will always be bisexual. It is who I am! I am not a cause or movement! I am bisexual!
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