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The Biscuit Guide to Coming Out as Bisexual

 

doorIn honour of National Coming Out Day tomorrow, Biscuit presents our guide to coming out as bi.
Coming out, as many bisexuals will tell you, isn’t a one off event. Once you’ve done it once, you’ll find yourself doing it all the time; to potential partners and new friends, to healthcare providers and public services. Because the gender of our partner or date doesn’t announce our sexuality, we find ourselves coming out more often than most. We never entirely get over the fear of coming out to someone new, but there’s no denying it gets easier.

Coming out for the first time, though, can be daunting. When you feel like you’ve been carrying an exhausting secret, the thought that you might be soon letting it go can be overwhelming, and not all of those thoughts are positive. Anxieties about how your life might change, or how your revelation might be received… Continue reading

Dear Joanna: “Am I bisexual… or not?”

118HDear Joanna,

I’m so confused and don’t know what to do! I don’t know if I am bisexual or not. I have been through the experimental time as a teenager and seen girls and had an attraction to them but I don’t know how I can find out if I really am without meeting someone and trying it out which is obviously not the way to go about it because someone who is a fully established bisexual would be hurt if I was to use them as an experiment. I have watched lesbian porn as I heard many straight people also do. I just don’t know what to do and I’m scared of telling anyone because I haven’t yet seen what it’s like to date a girl. Please help!

 

This is something many people go through in their life, so don’t worry, you’re not alone in your confusion!
It’s… Continue reading

Flirting Without Fear: Your Guide to Getting It On

download (1)There’s one workshop at BiCon that’s always completely packed: Flirting. We did a little flirting of our own and got Kate Harrad who runs the workshop to let us in on a few of her secrets…

Why do people flirt? There’s often a perception that flirting is a bit dishonest, a bit like beating around the bush; if you fancy someone you should just tell them so. But flirting is a vital tool in the pursuit of romantic/sexual connection. It’s not for everyone, but it is incredibly useful, because the fact is, many – many –  people are not confident enough to walk up to someone and say ‘I fancy you, please date me.’

And the truth is, many people aren’t comfortable with being told that, either. It can put you on the spot, and if you’re not good at saying no, you might find yourself going out with… Continue reading