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A Jill of all trades, mistress of none, Kate has tried everything: prison psychology, volunteering with homeless people, teaching English abroad, and editing a magazine in China (thankfully not in Chinese!). A born procrastinator, she's been working on her autobiographical sex book for the past four years and has got nowhere. She's hoping to find some motivation on the open road - a born traveller she's hoping to leave for America very soon. Happiest performing her comedy poems at spoken word nights and getting inordinate amounts of attention, Kate is a whirlwind of a woman.

Things to never say… – Part 1: "Have you got a boyfriend & a girlfriend?"

Part one of series in which Biscuit readers and writers give their responses to common misconceptions surrounding bisexuality…

Fancy a go yourself? Drop us a line at lottie@thisisbiscuit.com

 

 

Main photo Nathan Coloquhoun licensed for use under Creative Commons

Bi 40s screen queens – Part 2: Marlene Dietrich

Marlene in "No Highway", 1951

Marlene in “No Highway”, 1951

“Darling, the legs aren’t so beautiful, I just know what to do with them.”

Marlene Dietrich is a legend, but a legend that was carefully constructed throughout her career. She was an actress, appearing in 30 films between 1923 and 1964, a performer, a singer, and an entertainer. She was one of the most celebrated women of her era. Her sex appeal was undeniable and her famous androgynous look made trousers for women fashionable. Her embodiment of beauty and seduction made her the object of both male and female desire; she was a passionate bisexual whose affairs often overlapped. She pursued that which she craved, regardless of gender.

Marie Magdalene Dietrich was born in on December 27th 1901 in Berlin to a middle-class family, the youngest of two daughters. Aged 11 she combined her family nickname Lena with her first name to create Marlene (Mar-lay-na)… Continue reading

Bi 40s screen queens – Part 1: Tallulah Bankhead ("I'm ambisextrous, dahling!")

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Tallulah in 1941

“I’ll come and make love to you at five o’clock. If I’m late start without me.”

Tallulah Bankhead’s sultry, androgynous voice and catchphrase “Hello, dahling” were a mainstay of 1950s radio programme The Big Show. She is legendary in gay mythology for her larger-than-life diva attitude, her decadent lifestyle, and multitudinous affairs. An extravagant woman, who called everyone “darling” because she couldn’t remember names, she was glamorous, unpredictable, and highly sexed. She was bisexual but never used that word, instead defining herself as “ambisextrous”.

Tallulah Brockman Bankhead was born on January 31st , 1902 in Huntsville, Alabama, the daughter of a distinguished Democratic politician father. A wild child even then, he sent her to Catholic convent schools in an effort to tame her and keep her out of trouble. His hopes went unrealised.

“My father warned me about men and booze, but he never mentioned a word… Continue reading

Review: Biphoria's "Getting Bi in a Gay/Straight World" guide

gettingbiBiPhoria’s 2014 version of its helpful guide is a simple read with straightforward (for want of a better word!) language and an accessible, clear design. Purple, the middle colour of our flag, is everywhere. The leaflet has no airs and graces and is well thought out in terms of its users.

With history, timelines (including Doctor Who and Torchwood‘s Captain Jack, rawr), and a large “Who to tell” section giving handy hints about coming out, as well as chapters on fidelity and polyamory, they’ve crammed a lot into their 24 pages.

While their target audience is the bisexual crowd, they’ve also got enough material to satisfy friends, family, and allies who need information. Those biphobic questions that we’ve all been subject to are called “daft'” and are responded to accordingly.

Useful websites are mentioned, but they aren’t extensive, and the support groups listed are all in Manchester where BiPhoria… Continue reading

Shrien Dewani case: The "bi murderer"

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“The media seems to be suggesting that Dewani’s bisexuality is a motive for murdering his wife”

Last week British businessman Shrien Dewani went on trial in South Africa for arranging the murder of his wife. He gave a statement to court admitting that he was bisexual. Read by his barrister, the statement said:

“I consider myself to be bisexual. My sexual interactions with males were mostly physical experiences or email chats with people I met online or in clubs; including prostitutes. My sexual interactions with females were usually during the course of a relationship which consisted of other activities and emotional attachment.”

The internet went wild, The Times went tabloid with its headline “Bisexual Shrien Dewani denies honeymoon plot to murder wife” (later pulled), and the real tabloids focused on the revelation rather than any other, one might suggest more important, detail. Indeed, everything the defense has said since has… Continue reading

Animal attraction: The wonderful world of bi beasts

http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/7/74/Common_dolphin_noaa.jpg“The universe is not only queerer than we suppose, but queerer than we can suppose.”
 J.B.S. Haldane, evolutionary biologist

Bisexuality isn’t limited to humans. Birds do it, bees do it; I’m not sure if educated fleas do it, but numerous animal species switch between male and female partners. Here’s a handy guide to those getting in on the action.

Dolphins Doing It

Glee may have jokingly called them “gay sharks” but they weren’t far off. Researchers at the University of Massachusetts found that, of the 120 bottlenose dolphins they were studying, males were “found to engage in extensive bisexuality, combined with periods of exclusive homosexuality.” During the mating season, male pairs (and sometimes trios) group together to herd individual females – who knows if it’s for group sex or gang bangs. According to the boffins, the male-to-male pairs have “very intense” relationships with “complicated alliance… Continue reading

Kate Spencer asks where all our decent fiction is…

woman-reading-a-bookI was doing my normal trick of procrastinating the other day when I decided to scout a well-known online book seller for bisexual fiction. Bored of the mainstream, straight, cisgendered pile of literature by my bed, I was looking for a change and a challenge, especially as I’m loving Biscuit so much. Erotic fiction and chick lit was the best they had to offer. Titles like The Proposition: A Bisexual Threesome Short Story and Nanny Makes Three may be the acceptable face of porn but they feed into the stereotype that all bi people are nymphomaniacs who want as much nookie as they can get their hands (and other appendages) on. Even titles that at first appear scholarly are overwhelmingly sex-fuelled. Because of Lust: Bisexuality and Group Sex almost sounds like an in-depth look into the social mores of a certain section of society. Nope. Here’s part of the blurb:… Continue reading

Book review: "Cured Meat"

pt2Mental health is having a moment. The death of Robin Williams at his own hands earlier this month means that people are talking about it openly and honestly. One of my friends believes that if you haven’t experienced an episode of depression then you haven’t really considered the state of the world. There’s still much unknown about the condition and what leads to suicide. If you’re expecting answers from Cured Meat: Confessions of a Psychiatric Runaway, you’ll be disappointed.

Cured Meat is not an easy read. But it certainly sticks in your mind – fully functioning or not. Our narrator is a mess, too, and it’s obviously deep seated. Her story starts when she’s 16 – already up the proverbial creek with her abusive boyfriend and eating disorder – something so casually mentioned you have to make sure she really did write it. Abhorrent situations and her talk… Continue reading

"Straight Kate": My fag hag adventures

 Kate Spencer on how being the “hetero” mate in gay clubs helped her discover her bisexuality…

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“I looked at my friend and thought, ‘Well, we can’t both be bi, that would be weird!'”

My best friend came out to me in the canteen at college. He told me he was bisexual and I practically screamed it back to him incredulously. He had to shush me and tell me to calm down. I told my mum and she said “It’s just a phase.” It turned out it was. He’s a fully-fledged homosexual these days.

Back then he needed support and a friend with whom he could go to gay nights at local clubs, in search of himself and more. I was that friend. With a sense of duty I nobly went to the only non-heterosexual event, a once-monthly event in the nearest town (rural living has never done much for… Continue reading

"When I knew…": Kate Spencer's first girl crushes

 

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“It was that entrance…”

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It all started with Cameron Diaz in The Mask. It was that entrance.

Oh my goodness, that entrance. It was the red dress, those legs that went on forever, and the slow motion head shaking the rain out of her hair; I was transfixed. My reaction was exactly that of Jim Carey’s when they cut back to him. She was exquisite. Vibrant, young, and sexy, she was my first inkling that girls could have a hold on me. I practised that leg thing with my thigh-high split school skirt, though it had less of an impact with my short stumps. My tape of The Mask was watched ragged. And that gold dress in the club scene? Gee baby, she really was good to me.

 

 

Sandra Bullock

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“Sandra Bullock – your name is faintly ridiculous but your charisma is truly magnetic”… Continue reading